What if each of us made a commitment to release our grip on negative self-concepts and look at the events in our lives as just that: events? Sometimes wine glasses break. Blaming ourselves and feeling shame gets us nowhere. In fact, feeling shame can be a dangerous emotion as we often project it onto others, not wanting to experience the discomfort of this harmful feeling. Could this be a worthwhile endeavor – to catch shame before it has a chance to become part of our self- description? Before we actually believe we are shameful human beings?

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